Most of the time at least 99.99% we are govern by understanding the nature of good and evil, light and dark, positive and negative. Worse is good, light, positive it will make a person being weak and blind that they are unable to be independent to survive by their own and always ask help from others. Wouldn't it be better if you don't need to depend on others? Wouldn't it be better if you can solve anything by yourself? Wouldn't it be better if you don't owe others kindness? Wouldn't it be better to have your own power? Well you can but you still need others cause you are not alone in this world, except not always troubled others. Especially if is inconvenient for them or they are not available when you need them. Just because they are friend or family doesn't mean they must help you and who knows they have their own problems too.
Higher self is easier to approach than shadow self. People mostly seek their higherself for guidance just to do good and avoid from doing the wrong thing. Sadly if one always do good and never do wrong then I can say is they don't learn anything at all and they will be blind by their own justice just because for the sake of doing good. The truth is self righteous will only bring harm more than good. In the end and it doesn't help anyone to improve or move on. We are intelligent creature, we don't need to follow anyone or rules, there is no right or wrong, what matter is just be yourself with self control and discipline rather than somebody's pawn/servant or even slave. Understand the need of darkness then one won't be slave to the rules or their master.
Darkness is very important because dark holds unlimited secret and power that only you can find them by yourself. Spiritual journey is not just solo journey but dark path where no one will walk, except YOU only. Most religion now did the best work by their propaganda of walk toward the light path. Most religion want is your power, your rights, your wealth and as long as you need them they will keep you otherwise you are just another blasphemy or satan spawn. Once a person is blind, the religion can say whatever they like and the blind will just follow or do without think logically. Its very hard to find a religion that only want you to build your own power and keep your right.
So in this listing I will help you to ease your shadow self before you meet him/her. Naturally shadow self won't be nice at all when you meet him/her knowing that it has been left alone/pain/grudge/ignore/hate/moody/fear/chaos/curse for very long time, not just this life time, it included your past life too. Of course your shadow self won't kill you but then his/her pain can be unbearable. Getting in touch with your shadow self or even able to merge with your shadow it will help you perfect master your dark & black art. It is never easy to get shadow self merge with you because if you are unworthy he/she continuously inflict pain toward you more but to be a worthy person for your shadow self you have to be able to take more than what your shadow self have suffered. So dwelling into darkness and dark path, you need a lot mental strength or else if you lose, your shadow will consume you and you will become just like your shadow; lets just say asylum awaits. I cannot tell you are ready or not to meet your shadow self because this is your personal growth so it has to be you to decide to face him/her. But if you do, then get ready for screwed up life. Working with shadow you need to be able to resist your shadow self all his/her negative effect and have a lot mental strength. You want power, you want secret, you want past knowledge and experience, only shadow can give what you want. Cause shadow is the key holder to all your unlimited potential.
Never make or take deal with shadow. Rely on your spirit companion support but not they solve everything for you instead they push you through and over come your test.
I cannot telepathy or see him/her, how?
Your shadow self is you. Just imagine your shadow self look like you and just speak in your mind with him/her. Becareful shadow are trickster and they twist word. You have to play smart or else you fall for it.
What should I do when I meet him/her first time?
Apologize I'm sure nobody wants to be alone. Always keep in touch and want to reach him/her. Some shadow will ignore you or blame you are mean or throw all kinds of negative feeling and emotion. Don't ask other people how to deal your shadow, you are not worthy if you do that. Lastly, be sincere and honest. Don't lie, give excuse, twist your word or show arrogant that you can master dark magic without your shadow. Don't forget your power source is from your shadow, he/she can cancel your power.
Can you bind my shadow self to me?
Think logic, self means you. No point binding someone already belong to yourself.